August 2009

Tips from Camp 5

Ways to involve your child with others using the skills they have learned.

 

Expressing Your Feelings:

  • Tune into what is going on in your body.
  • Decide what happened to make you feel that way.
  • Decide what you are feeling.
  • Think about the different ways to express your feeling and pick one.
    • Consider talking about the feeling, doing a physical activity, or walking away from the emotional situation.
    • Consider how, when, where, and to whom the feeling could be expressed.

 

Following Instructions

  • Listen carefully while you are being told what to do.
  • Ask questions about anything you don’t understand.
  • Decide if you want to follow the instructions, and let the other person know your decision.
  • Repeat the instructions to yourself.
  • Do what you have been asked to do.

 

Giving Instructions:

  • Decide what needs to be done.
  • Think about the different people who could do it and choose one.
  • Ask that person to do what you want done.
  • Ask the other person if he/ she understands what to do.
  • Change or repeat your instructions if you need to.

Dealing with Fear:

  • Decide if you are feeling afraid.
  • Think about what you might be afraid of.
  • Figure out if the fear is realistic.
  • Take steps to reduce your fear.
    • Breathe slowly, count to ten, leave the scene, or talk to someone.

Using Self-Control:

  • Tune into what it is going on in your body that helps you know you are about to lose control of yourself.
    • Are you getting tense, angry, or fidgety?
  • Decide what happened to make you feel this way.
  • Think about ways in which you might control yourself.
  • Choose the best way to control yourself and do it.

Understanding the Feelings of Others:

  • Watch the other person.
    • Notice tone of voice, posture, and facial expression.
  • Listen to what the other person is saying.
  • Figure out what the person might be feeling.
  • Think about ways to show you understand what they are feeling.
    • Talk to the person, smile at them, or leave them alone.
  • Decide on the best way and do it.

Avoiding Fights:

    • Stop and think about why you want to fight.
    • Decide what you want to happen in the long run.
    • Think about other ways to handle the situation besides fighting.
    • You might negotiate, stand up for your rights, or ask for help.
    • Decide on the best way to handle the situation and do it.
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